Why I’m not built for baby showers

Growing up, fun was never the stated goal in my family home. To be successful at life was to be diligent, disciplined, and frugal; it’s the protestant work ethic that has stayed with me, even as a confirmed agnostic. Doing anything my brain perceives as “frivolous” can be an inherently guilt-ridden experience for me. It’s why I could still only ever take out a loan … Continue reading Why I’m not built for baby showers

How to function in indefinite uncertainty

When the pandemic began we were probably okay for a time. We were running on surge capacity – what we draw on for short-term survival in acutely stressful situations. The problem with Covid-19 is that it’s not short term. It’s dragging on, yet ever-changing. Our uncertainty is indefinite. So we need to find a different way to cope now that our surge capacity is depleted. If it … Continue reading How to function in indefinite uncertainty

Thoughts on approaching a milestone month

I’m approaching the end of the July with mixed feelings. It marks the end of my 12 months of not spending money on clothes, and – perhaps no less of a milestone – my 32nd birthday. That’s right, I’m as old as Prozac, Photoshop, Rain Man, and George Michael’s Faith. It’s also been the year I stopped feeling invincible and instead discovered the importance of … Continue reading Thoughts on approaching a milestone month

29 things I wish I’d learned before starting to make my own clothes

I woke up this morning to a message from my cousin Heather, in Scotland. She’s collected her new sewing machine, is just about to start dressmaking and wondered if I had any tips.  Super excited, I started writing a response on my phone, when I realised this was more than a quick Instagram reply.  So here it is, Heather. 29 things I wish someone had … Continue reading 29 things I wish I’d learned before starting to make my own clothes